Since October 14, 2016, I separate my life into two parts…before Derek left for Heaven and after. I am not sure if I will always think of it that way but for now, that’s how my heart and brain see my life. One of the ways I have been able to function and keep moving forward since then is to look for blessings in our life after. One of the biggest blessings has been how special some of my old and new friendships have become and the amazing love and support that has been shown to our family. As we are coming close to the end of our first year with Derek in Heaven, I would like to make sure that everyone knows how very special they are to our family.
To Derek’s friends…you were always such an important part of his life. When he was in high school, a comment that he made that drove me crazy was, “all I want to do is have fun with my friends” When he went off to college you continued to be such an important part of his life and he did have so much fun. He loved you all so much. Before he went to Heaven, I was thankful that he had such great friends but I didn’t realize how important you would be to our family until he was no longer here. Immediately after we got the call about Derek you stepped up and handled things that you shouldn’t have to at your age. Raising money to travel to Texas to say goodbye to Derek, donating the excess travel money to our family, the sweet gifts, the visits throughout the year to spend time with us, and the regular calls and texts have meant so much. You have honored your friend in such an amazing way and for that I am forever grateful. Thank you for choosing to stay close to our family, we love you all so much.
To my sweet and wonderful friends…you have been such a blessing and source of strength for me. Thank you for showing up and sticking around. Thank you for the continued prayers and being understanding. Thank you for listening to me cry and vent and not judging me when I laugh and joke. You have given me the most precious notes and gifts and I will always treasure them. Thank you for extending grace to me while I am grieving and not having expectations of me as a friend. You have reached out and supported our family in ways that we will never be able to repay, thank you and I love you all.
To my very special new friends, my fellow bereaved Moms… we may not have met face to face but the support you have shown me from a distance means so much. I hate the reason for our common bond but I am so blessed to have you in my life. Your prayers and understanding ear have been a a gift from God. I am so blessed that you all were put in my life at His perfect time. I am grateful that we have each other to lean on as we continue on this very painful journey.
To our wonderful and strong family…we wouldn’t have survived this past year with out you. Thank you for taking care of things for me when I didn’t have the energy. Thank you for supporting every thing that I have wanted to do to remember our sweet Derek. Thank you for knowing when to leave me alone and when to step in. Thank you for the sweet gifts and continual prayers. You have been my rock and I am so very thankful that we finally live close to most of you. Thank you for showing us unconditional love during the most difficult time in our lives. We love you so much.
Thank you Lord for blessing us with such wonderful family and friends. Thank you for Derek’s friends that are so precious to our family. I ask for your continued love and grace for our family and friends as we begin our second year with Derek in Heaven.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity. Proverbs 17:17